Being a sensual cocktease Goddess, I have been gifted the opportunity to Dominate and guide numerous submissives on the internet. Online domination can either be an erotic fantasy or a fleeting pleasure to some. But to many, online Domination is part of our lives and the connections that we form are deep. They impact our lives in the same way that offline connections impact our lives. I am here to share the unspoken benefits of serving an online Domme and its impact in our offline, non-kink lives.

Recently, I met with Mistress Olivia and Mistress Erika to discuss this very topic on their podcast, The Weekly Hot Spot. In, Beyond the Kink: Unseen Benefits to YOU When You Serve a FemDom Mistress, we reflect on our personal experiences. But what you really need to know are the thoughts that our own submissives shared with us.

Embracing Personal Growth

Serving an online Domme requires some level of self-awareness, discipline, and openness to development. As a submissive, you will be pushed to confront your deepest fantasies, fears, and insecurities. This self-discovery can lead to a greater understanding of yourself, which can allow you to develop a more authentic and confident sense of self.

With me, you will learn to speak up more assertively about your needs and boundaries. I want you to develop a stronger sense of self-advocacy. This confidence will spread into other areas of your life, enabling you to become more in control of your relationships, career, and health in general.

In the podcast, Ms Olivia shared some thoughts that her subbie had about personal growth in their D/s relationship.

These play sessions for a sub are very powerful and allow the sub to also benefit from having a safe space to let go, to experiment. Without judgment and with someone caring and understanding. There is a personal growth that is allowed to occur as a sub that cannot be easily (if at all) realized any other way.

The Power of Surrender

Most of my submissives lead stressful, hectic lives. They are most often always in positions in their work life where they are required to make the decisions. Being in service to an online Domme, a submissive has to relinquish control. Which is challenging and liberating. This relinquishing allows them to experience the erotic power exchange of BDSM within a safe and consensual environment. It is a lesson in the importance of trust and the power that is derived from vulnerability.

I had the opportunity to spend some time with a subbie who initially had a lot of anxiety surrounding submission, cock control, safety & anonymity, and body acceptance. During our time together he dove right in and tackled every challenge that I put in front of him. In a short amount of time, I watched the hesitation and anxiety instantly evaporate and at the end. Not only was his anxiety gone but there was an undeniable transformation in him.

For me, it reaffirmed that what it means to be submissive isn’t always about humiliation and degradation. Yes, those are things that some enjoy and are fulfilled by. But, we all have our own likes and dislikes. In this case, this was a subbie who is not submissive in everyday life and humiliation/degradation is not a turn on for them. Professionally, he is the one who must lead, take control, and make the important decisions. To be able to immerse himself in submission the way that he did was not only hot AF for me but a testament to the power of surrender and submission.

Here’s a bit of what he shared with me.

I gained confidence from my ability to dive into something I wanted to do despite the anxiety and stress it caused. I wasn’t at all expecting any of this growth. You are a key reason for this breakthrough. I very much appreciate your compassion, your attention to my comfort and safety, and your investment in creating a great experience.

Cultivating Emotional Intelligence

Similar to most relationships, the online Domme-submissive relationship is built on trust, vulnerability, and emotional intelligence. As you navigate the complexities of our online relationship, you’ll develop a deeper sense of emotional awareness, empathy, and understanding.

You’ll be more attuned to your emotions and learn to control them, responding to situations more thoughtfully and empathetically. This increased emotional intelligence will carry over to your online and offline relationships, allowing you to form deeper, more meaningful connections with others.

Trust

Giving up control and placing it into the hands of someone else requires a fuck ton of trust. In my opinion, trust is earned over time through our consistent actions. And while the depth of trust grows slowly over an extended period of time, it only takes seconds for that trust to be completely lost.

Mistress Erika’s subbie benefitted in many ways by trusting in their online Domme. This is what they had to say:

It was Mistress Erika’s full command during the session, and down to earth and all around fantastic human she is, that I finally trusted anyone enough to ask for more felt safe exploring without judgment, More she did. I went from (what she would affectionately call her jerk-off caller) to her ownership of many years, exploring all the facets of my submission and learning how deeply and honestly I love being her little slut in many and more ways than I could dream of.

Vulnerability

There are many things and many ways that vulnerability will surface throughout your relationship with your online Domme. Many times this experience will require us to acknowledge parts of ourselves that may not be so pretty. Sometimes, there’s even a lot of shame involved. But when we tackle the hard things, we can discover some pretty fucking amazing things about ourselves and we learn to love more about ourselves. I think that’s powerful.

Here’s what one of Ms Becky’s subbies had to say about vulnerability:

I have learned to become vulnerable with a more adjusted ego – more humble. It’s also allowed me to be accepted by Women who, in turn, share more of their souls with me. Again, increased spiritual and emotional intimacy.

Emotional Intelligence

As a sapioromantic demisexual, an intellectual and emotional connection are absolutely required for me to create a bond with you. In these connections, emotional intelligence is vital and it can be hard to find someone that you can really connect with. But when two sapio/demi relational people get together, the bond can be really fucking amazing.

Here’s what my sapio/demi relational subbie had to say about the unseen benefits of serving an online Domme.

Being demi/sapio relational, being lucky enough to find a Mistress that I can make a very deep, intimate, vulnerable bond with being basically the one relationship where I am most free to be myself without shame for being who I am. Deep, real trust down to your deepest core with a Mistress is a level I think most people rarely are open enough to find in “vanilla” relationships. You can’t totally separate the kink from the rest of yourself; as a whole person being able to be authentic with regard to any public aspects AND kinky aspects is holistic health.

Developing a Sense of Belonging

Humans are social beings, we thrive in supportive communities. But when it comes to kink, sharing that part of ourselves is rarely a possibility. Forming a relationship with your online Domme will help you to build confidence in your interests and reaffirm that your kinks and/or fetishes aren’t anything you should feel ashamed of.

Mistress Olivia’s subbie had this to share:

It also can and does create a powerful feeling of belonging, which is frequently something a sub person can be struggling with.

Do not overlook the most obvious benefit: the opportunity to explore your deepest fantasies and desires in a protected, controlled setting. As a virtual Domme, I’ll guide you through a world of sensual exploration. Helping you to discover new levels of your sexuality and passions.

I will encourage you to explore your erotic fantasies. With the freedom to experiment, you’ll get to understand your desires better, which will translate to a more fulfilling and enriching sex life.

Here are some thoughts a few of my subbies had about the unseen benefits of serving an online Domme:

Serving you has made me feel that I need to be my best self in life as much as possible. My trust in you and your acceptance of me and my submission as something that is of value makes me want to do all that I can to make sure that I grow that value.

It gives me a safe environment to explore myself and ideas society does not understand or deem appropriate. Also, to know that someone is along for the ride who isn’t judging you but encouraging you to not be afraid of that self-exploration.

SELF-ACCEPTANCE……I have always known I am a Sissy. I have also always been in sissy denial. Having an experienced and caring Domme accept and celebrate my sissy side has given ME the permission to love myself and accept that part of me. I could never have done that alone.

Strengthening Your Communication Skills

Recognizing the need for strong communication when serving an online Domme is so extremely important. Here are a few points to consider:

• Set well-established lines of communication
• Know the expectations.
• Be courteous and use polite language.
• Be honest and transparent.
• Respect boundaries.

Serving a FemDom Mistress requires good communication skills. You’ll be required to step out of your comfort zone, while remaining receptive to different experiences and perspectives. Such willingness to adapt will equip you with strength, and you’ll be better able to cope with the uncertainties of life.

Serving an Online Domme Can Help You Professionally

Throughout the highs and lows of our distance domination relationship, you will develop a growth mindset. A mindset in which failures are viewed as opportunities to learn and develop. It will translate across all aspects of life, from personal relationships to professional activities.

The Domme-submissive relationship is a fluid, creative, and sometimes unpredictable relationship. In response to my commands, challenges, and tasks; you will exercise your potential for creative thinking. This outside-the-box problem-solving will spill over into the rest of your life so you can approach challenging problems.

Fostering Accountability and Responsibility

Working with an online Domme such as myself requires a certain level of responsibility and accountability. You will have to do assignments and FemDom tasks, meet deadlines, and deliver. I will fully expect you to fulfill your commitments..

Getting in control of your actions and responsibilities will have you become accountable, knowing that you have to fulfill what you commit to. You will have a sense of responsibility in other areas of your life, from interpersonal relationships to career growth.

My submissives have seen amazing benefits in their professional lives since they began serving me:

The discipline that comes from serving a domme is different than self-imposed discipline. This discipline has transferred to my professional life as well……during my locked period, so far I have gotten certified as a Passive House Builder AND started a class on buying multi-family real estate where I have a new LLC set up and am working towards my first purchase.

I have learned that even when things seem too difficult, I am capable of much more than I thought possible and that through perseverance I can succeed.

Mistress Erika’s submissive knows and expects to be held accountable to their Mistress. I couldn’t have said it better myself:

No other way to play it, be honest with Mistress; if you aren’t, then you are just cheating yourself

Building Your Interpersonal Relationships – Especially with Women

Serving an online Domme will absolutely change your thoughts, views, and actions when it comes to women in your non-kink life. It’s a personal goal of mine that my relationship with my submissives helps them to empower women in their everyday lives.

My subbies had some inspiring thoughts on how serving me has enhanced their interpersonal relationships outside of kink:

One of the many aspects is that being kind and attentive to her helps me give out more kindness and attentiveness to my surroundings and especially to women.

I have realized that a kind word or a small gesture can really brighten up someone’s day and hopefully that person will do the same for someone else and little by little the world will be a better place.
I have become more patient and grateful for all that I have in my life. I have learned that enjoying life’s journey and being present in the moment is important since we never know what tomorrow will bring.

Mistress Erika’s submissives had this to say:

By having a mistress to serve, I’ve noticed that she is always present with me in my thoughts. So that I am aware that I am a reflection of her all the time. It makes me want to always better myself in all things.

Being able to express my true self. Being male, I’m often encouraged to be a leader, and I am able to fit that role, and for work, I guess that works out. With women, I prefer her to be more dominant,but for some reason, I always seem to find myself with submissive women, and my need to serve isn’t met.
With Mistress, I can give, be of service, and be celebrated for it, I’ve been told I’m great submissive because I truly love being of service, sexual or otherwise; it’s my joy.

Unseen Benefits of Serving an Online Domme

Serving an online Domme brings an untold wealth of advantages. From emotional intelligence and personal growth to creativity and responsibility. Through this dynamic, you’ll become more self-aware. You will develop deeper, more intimate connections and explore the depths of your fantasies and desires.

So, if you’re ready to embark on a journey of self-awareness and sensual discovery, start by finding the perfect Mistress and join me in the world of online Domination. We’ll uncover the secret benefits of being an online Domme’s submissive. And you’ll discover a stronger, more empowered, and more satisfying version of yourself.

Are you already serving an online Domme? If so, leave a comment and tell me the benefits that you have seen in your own life.

Keeping you entranced and craving more until next time,

Your Sensual Cocktease Goddess Demi

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