Heyyy sexy kinksters!!! Recently, I took over KINKology and interviewed my sexy bestie and Mistress of the Month for March, Ms Becky! I absolutely had to return the favor after she interviewed me during my time as Mistress of the Month in January. I was fresh out of a week of total cock control with a very lucky subbie of mine, excited to begin the new year by creating intentional connections with the people in my life, and Becky was curious to know more about the psychology of your favorite cocktease and sensual Domme…ME!

How did I get into BDSM?

I met a woman through mutual friends and was completely enamored by her. She is the type of woman that walks into a room and you cannot help but take notice. As we got to know each other, I learned that she is a professional dominatrix and soon began learning the ropes, literally and figuratively, of BDSM. Because of her mentorship and guidance, I eventually took on submissives of my own.

While I still enjoy my sessions with my IRL subbies, long distance domination has opened up an entirely new world for me and I am totally obsessed! In my opinion, long distance domination allows us to create deeper D/s connections. In many ways, it gives submissives permission to let their guards down more than they usually would. They are less inhibited and are not only willing but excited to explore themselves at a level they otherwise wouldn’t feel as comfortable doing. The deep connection that is formed only serves to intensify our play sessions.

What do I find gratifying about being a Sensual Domme?

There are so many things! The power exchange in BDSM is what really piqued my interest. My personal views about sexuality, my disdain for the patriarchy, and my insatiable craving for control absolutely led to me towards my love of female domination. As you are well aware, I absolutely love to control your cocks. The electrifying rush that I feel when I have decided that you will be mine and then to see you on your knees, begging to be owned is indescribable.

I don’t feel that there is one type of Domme that is more “dominant” than the other. We tend to see the stereotypical “mean Mistress” image of a woman donning a sexy, black leather ensemble with a whip in her hand while perching her stiletto heel on the back of her male submissive as being the only way a woman can Dominate. But that couldn’t be further from the truth. In reality, a Domme can look, dress, act, talk, and be anything she feels most comfortable presenting herself as.

I absolutely enjoy the game of sensually cockteasing my submissive. Wrapping my well manicured fingers around them and their submission. Then, luring them into my lair of debauchery before they have even realized they are completely entranced by me. By then, their submission and my grip are so strong, they are left questioning why they would ever want to return to the mundane life they were living before.

How do I approach sexuality and female domination?

I approach sexuality and female domination in the same ways that I approach life. I believe that society loves to fit us into boxes and those boxes are extremely constricting. They leave us questioning our likes, our dislikes, and it can be extremely damaging to our self worth. Instead, I prefer to meet people where they are in that particular moment with the understanding that life happens and people change.

As far as sexuality goes, I don’t like to yuck on someone’s yum. Their interests may not be an interest of mine but as long as it is safe, sane, consensual, and legal…go for it! There is so much shame surrounding sexuality and honestly, I will never understand why. But I do know that I’d much rather be part of the solution than part of the problem.

This mindset is most likely what led me to female domination. I dive in depth on this topic in my blog, Finding the Perfect Mistress: A Sensual Odyssey. I’m drawn to and totally get off on the power exchange involved with domination. I strongly believe that BDSM can be and should be empowering for all parties involved. For me, the dynamics of an ethical D/s relationship require communication, trust, vulnerability, and respect of all boundaries.

The Psychology of Sensual Domme Demi

My interview on Kinkology: The Psychology of Kink with my bestie Becky was a ton of fun for me! You can learn more about The Psychology of Goddess Demi by listening to our conversation.

And be sure to check out the episode where I took over Kinkology and interviewed Ms Becky! I promise that you will fall in love with her just as much as I have.

You may be surprised by what you learn in this latest mistress interview series when two besties bare it all and share their thoughts on life, Domination, and kink! Becky and I talk with each other every single day and we were even surprised to uncover new things about each other. Given the amount of time we spend chatting it up, I am sure this won’t be the last time you hear from us. In fact, I know it won’t because you can hang out with us and our sexy Mistress friends every Friday night at 9est for some FemDom Friday fun over on Twitter!

Keeping you entranced and craving more until next time,

Your Sensual Cocktease Goddess Demi

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